couples therapy
You love each other, but nobody told you being in a relationship would be so hard.
It is time to reconnect and build the relationship you are both longing for.
Many couples that are seeking couples therapy have the same conflicts. It might feel like you are going in circles without resolution. You want the best for each other, but you are at a standstill. Maybe your fights are escalating, or you have drifted apart over time. Did your sex life start great, and is now nonexistent because of kids, work, or stress? You might be feeling frustrated, lonely, and unable to feel close to your partner.
In couples therapy, we will help you bring back the fun, loving, passionate version of the relationship. It is possible to get on the same page and enjoy more intimacy, love, and connection.
we work with:
- Breakdowns in Communication
- Trust Issues
- Resentment
- Jealousy
- Avoidance/Withdrawal
- Codependency
- Neediness
- Overwhelm with Life Stressors: Family, Work, Finances
- Sexuality Issues
- Open Relationships/Non-monogamy/Polyamory
- Infidelity
- Divorce
- Conscious Uncoupling
you can get through this together and come out stronger
all couples come up against difficult challenges
Being in a relationship is hard work, and inevitably issues arise that feel overwhelming to work through alone. Sometimes conflict can be an opportunity to deepen your relationship and help you get back on track. Getting the help you need to heal your relationship is the first step to breaking old patterns.
Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)
We specialize in couples and integrate the most current and innovative couples therapy modalities. Our approach builds on PACT—A Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy—developed by Stan Tatkin, and also integrates Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), Non-Violent Communication (NVC), Family Systems, and The Gottman Method.
Basic principles of the PACT method:
Attachment. We all want to be loved and cared for. In therapy, we’ll work toward building and maintaining a secure attachment in your relationship, one in which both of you are looking out for each other and responding to the other’s needs.
Regulation. When our emotions take over, our survival instincts kick in. We act to protect ourselves, which can often be hurtful to others. We work to help you both manage your feelings to stay within a range where you can listen and understand the other’s perspective and feelings. You will learn the skills to de-escalate and soothe each other during conflict.
Automatic Responses. Since being close to our partner is so crucial for all of us, we usually respond to cues from them with a fast, automatic reaction—such as changing our tone or subtly becoming more distant. Most of the time, we don’t even know we do this, but our partner is still unconsciously affected in a huge way. Learning to recognize your automatic reactions—and what they mean for yourself and your partner—is a big step toward a more connected and satisfying relationship.
We look forward to supporting your growth and your movement toward the strong, loving, relationship that you both desire.